Mental health at Christmas
The festive period can be a time filled with fun, family and frivolity but it can also be stressful, full of expectation, difficult relationships and pressure. So how do you look after yourself during this time?
What do you want from the day?
Social media and television show us a perfect image of Christmas and it can bring anxiety if you feel your celebrations don’t match up. Decide how you want to spend your time and set your own expectations. That might be a big traditional dinner, time with your chosen family or a day spent solo - however you do it, that’s ok.
What do you need?
Are you feeling overwhelmed by plans and getting things ready? Stop and check in with yourself - what actually needs to get done. Sit down, take a breath and work out your priorities. Don’t forget to ask for help - you don’t have to do everything yourself.
Unexpected changes
One thing that we have all learnt from the pandemic is that plans can change. Is your day now going to be different? Last minute changes can bring disappointment and it’s ok to feel sad about it not being what you imagined. Feel that sadness then take some time and reset your expectations. Fill your day with things that will bring you some joy.
Hold boundaries
Getting together with family can bring difficult dynamics and unwanted conversations. Set, communicate and hold your boundaries. Remember that it is ok to step out of conversations and choose to not engage.
Protect your energy
This period can feel draining with lots of social commitments and activities. Don’t forget to save some energy for you. Don’t feel obligated to attend events that don’t boost your energy stores. Take some time to disconnect, recuperate and recharge - step away from social media, turn off those news notifications, get some fresh air, sleep, take time for whatever you need.
If you are struggling during this time, please reach out for help. For access to immediate support please contact a mental health helpline, MIND, Samaritans or your GP.
If you have questions about counselling contact me.
